And that’s what can make things so difficult to navigate.
Everyone has different values around money—how to spend it, how to save it, and what role it plays.
“People will be honest about their age or their number of sex partners before they’ll tell you how much they make,” says Fields.
At the end of the day, it’s wise to pay attention to what someone is showing you about their character, especially when it comes to money.
offer to buy the first drink, they can’t help but raise an eyebrow about what that says about him or her.
Whether you’re the asker or the askee, you can’t go wrong by offering to get the check or at least split it.
“Often, people who are cheap financially end up being cheap emotionally,” says Fields.
“On the other hand, if they insist on picking up the tab and never let you pay, are they being sweet and generous, or is it something they saw one of their parents do in a dysfunctional way?