Some WAY members choose not to reveal that they've been widowed straight away, as they worry that it might make them feel too vulnerable.
Others report that potential dates run a mile when they say they've been widowed.
So the best advice is to proceed with caution and to make sure you’re ready before you take the plunge.
You can always dip your toe in the dating pool and take it out again if it doesn't feel right.
I have re-discovered what I loved most about being a girl and hanging out with my friends …
He said, “I’ll never date a widow again.” That’s just one story. It’s been a long time since I felt this way.”Another Stitch member, “Deborah,” who is both a divorcee and widow, shared with us that she has felt a gaping hole in her life for decades.
For another couple who met on Stitch (she a divorcee named “Lynn” and he a widower named “Paul”) the question of whether they would be compatible because of their different losses never came up. Maybe we cry for different reasons, but having a shoulder to cry on, someone I love, it doesn’t matter about how we got there, just that we found each other now.”Paul said, “Of course I miss my wife and yes she was my soul mate. She and I have built a new life together and every day I’m grateful to Stitch for leading me to her. Such a mix of different trauma and pain led her to feel that the only way to feel right again was to find another husband.
But should widowers and widows dating divorcees have to worry about their relationship? And if divorced, should they only date other divorcees?
What’s the combination that will give you the best chance for true companionship?