Indeed, I do not think we can make a biblical case for a girl and a boy going out together alone on a date just for fun or for making friends. Someone may ask: But how do you know it is God’s will for you to marry someone whom you have not had a long time of consistent dating to get to know very well?If not, how could you enter into a relationship with a goal of marriage?If they date fairly often, they date other people as well. the couple dates no one else because they have a commitment to date only each other.This is the healthiest stage of dating, because a person builds friendship with many different people…” (p. They may or may not have talked about their commitment.There are two popular, misleading ways of relating the Bible to dating. In other words, the institution of dating does not receive its legitimacy from covenantal realities and does not “sanctify” as marriage does (1 Cor. Dating is merely the way our culture manages the transition from singleness to marriage without the ancient (secular) courtship structures.
This can create problems if a holy hunk or spiritual fox arrives on the scene” (p. But I do believe that the practice of casual dating is one of the causes of moral laxity in the American culture.
This also means that preferences, standards, desires, fears, and annoyances do not control the agenda of the relationship (Gal. (7) Always be ready to break up if the relationship becomes unhealthy or continually sinful (Psalm ). The Bible plays a vital role in understanding dating, both in the nature and function of dating as a culture and institution, and the manner in which we date.
(10) The great command to love your neighbor as yourself is not superseded or subverted by romantic love, but provides the necessary context for romance to be love (Rom. Consummation: (11) Seek to help the person you're dating to cherish the coming consummation of Christ more than the possible consummation of marriage (James 5:8; 2 Pet. (12) Those who presume upon the foretaste of covenantal realities for the sake of this world are storing up greater judgment for themselves (Heb. Likewise, dating someone when you know it will not lead to marriage is to consciously consume foretastes of marriage covenantal realities (romance, special emotional intimacy, vulnerability, a level of security) for selfish, and therefore sinful ends.
In other words, we must never seek to know God’s secret will, nor make our decisions based on His secret will.
This being the case, if you are single and the person you are courting is a single believer who is not too closely related to you, you may know that it is not against God’s (preceptive) will for you to marry him or her.