While it is normal for couples to ask where the other person has been or what they were doing, a controlling person will take this behavior to the extreme.
Often the controller will call while you are away, and ask excessive questions when you return.
Like blaming you for everything, it is a way to play on your emotions in order to control you.
When the person being controlled grows tired of the abuse and threatens to breakup, the controller will nearly always apologize, ask for a second chance, and say it will never happen again.
Controlling relationships usually develop from fear. The controlling partner is afraid that he or she is going to lose the one they love while the one who is being controlled is afraid at first of hurting their partner, and then eventually, of their partner.In fact, the controller may even suggest you dump all of your friends and only spend time with him or her.A controlling person will often have erratic behavior.This is because you, as the non-controlling person, will sometimes be unaware of whether the controller is experiencing bouts of jealousy or lack of trust.The erratic behavior most commonly appears when you first arrive home, or when the two of you are on a date.