(Though, if you want to, that’s cool, too.) That sex is an on-going consensual conversation rather than an act you’re obligated to continue if you decide you’re not in the mood halfway through.
I’ve learnt to pay more attention to what my body tells me and to honour my own pleasure.
Being with somebody older, who’s been through it all before, and is tired of game-playing is utterly refreshing.
His philosophy is if you like somebody, why wouldn’t you admit to wanting to spend time with them?
We’ve discovered overlapping cultural references from my childhood because he had direct involvement with them.
Like the time he had dinner with Hear’say, or when he produced , a call-in radio show I used to fall asleep listening to aged 14.
Despite the maths, and the fact he thinks Kim Kardashian is married to Jay Z, it’s a solid, respectful relationship devoid of weird power dynamics. I was vaguely suspicious of a forty-something attracted to a twenty-something with student loans instead of a sorted older woman at her sexual peak.
He’s 369 days younger than my Mum, and has teenage children.
Every woman he has slept with has met and married her dream man immediately following.Few search results gave me the story I wanted to hear. Of somebody in their twenties in a relationship with somebody older, which didn’t involve sugar daddies, psychological abuse or nostalgia from couples now in their fifties and seventies.I reached the point when the only viable comparison I could find was Carrie and Big.More revealing of our gap is his ability to provide practical solutions to the problems I cannot solve.It’s helpful when somebody knows how to hang shelves without tearing down walls.