The day after my mother died, I had lunch with one of her oldest friends. She smiled indulgently and shrugged, but I was too numb and exhausted to pursue the conversation.
I remember thinking that perhaps there was something else I should be doing. Afterwards I called my sister Evgenia and told her what had happened.
For example, the Washington Blade featured an article about the evolution of online dating in which it was reported that: an increasing number of gay and lesbian youth have taken their first steps into the “gay community” by passing through an online chat room door.
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Adam4Adam has also been used to "out" people who have otherwise kept their sexual orientation somewhat secret.
The Servicemembers Legal Defense Network warned United States military personnel in 2004 that online profiles on Adam4Adam and similar sites were a violation of the “Don’t ask, don’t tell” policy, and that in some cases online profiles were being used as evidence in outing service members to military command.
An article in The New York Sun entitled "Morbid Web Site Makes Amusement of Online Profiles Left Behind by the Dead" discusses a site that highlights the user profiles on various social networking websites.
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