It can be a way to work toward a better life, with someone who has no agenda but YOU. But the fact is that many people feel a lot of self-rejection after a divorce."You might think that there must be something wrong with you if you couldn't make this relationship work," Alberti says.Maybe it's trying a new sport, considering a different place of worship, or going back to college.Maybe you realize that you'd like to move to a new city or even spend a year living in Paris.What is your new life going to look like, and how do you start moving in that direction?
"Whatever your marriage and divorce experience has been, there will be emotions that have to do with grief," says psychotherapist Florence Falk, Ph D, MSW, author of On My Own: The Art of Being a Woman Alone. You've signed the divorce papers, and the relationship you entered with so much hope is officially dissolved. Maybe you had been married for decades, maybe just a year or so. Maybe the divorce was your idea and maybe it was your partner's, or maybe you both agreed that separation was best.Maybe you're relieved, maybe you're heartbroken -- or a bit of both.Now that I'm nearing the end of the divorce process (it's a marathon — not a sprint!), I'm starting to reflect on the things I wish I had done differently or, perhaps, the things I wish I had known before getting a divorce, period.