“Members of the Church would be surprised at the shocking number of people who have met their spouses [online].
It’s a place where singles can go and meet other singles without pressure from their ward members or families constantly telling them to get married.”The Profile Want to date online but don’t want a picture on your profile?
“It is becoming increasingly difficult for LDS people to meet a potential spouse once they’re out of college,” says Alisa Snell, a dating coach and marriage and family therapist in Utah.
“You’re just not in front of the masses, which translates to fewer opportunities.”Holly Coleman, 36, can’t argue there.“You get to the point—especially in my age group—when you feel like you’ve met every eligible person in your circles,” says Coleman, who met her husband on e Harmony and married him in 2011.
“Tell a few people where you’re going and what time you expect to be home.”And that phone number you give out?Not to mention the online world can give you a buffer in case the relationship fizzles.“Many men don’t date women in their singles wards just so they can avoid awkward encounters if it doesn’t work out,” Snell says. Online settings can give you that extra boost of confidence.“I actually think I’m better at online dating,” says Chloe Andersen, 33, a New York City resident who’s been online dating off and on for the last seven years.“When I date online I’m confident, whereas in normal single situations I can get insecure and be reduced to a high school junior. I love having a say in who I meet and who I date.”One of the best attributes of online dating is the variety. Below are just a handful of websites LDS singles commonly log on to.· ldssingles.com· eharmony.com· match.com· ldsmingle.com· ldsplanet.com· Simply said: Online dating can work.“Some people think online dating is unnatural,” says James Green, general manager of “If a person keeps on pressing you for specific information, that’s a big warning sign.”If you’re a single parent, keep those kids a mystery (with the exception of their actual existence).“Your profile will typically say whether or not you have kids, but beyond that, don’t go into details about your children until you’re in an actual relationship,” Snell says.“Also, don’t post pictures of your kids on your profile.”If the conversation rapidly turns intimate or inappropriate, nix the contact just as quickly.“When people want to meet immediately or late at night, that’s a big red flag.