But I don't think it's fair for a woman to get upset with a man for not doing something she didn't ask him to do, regardless of how simple or small she thinks it is. This behavior is very confusing to us and we will most likely react accordingly.
However, once a woman has expressed to a man that there are certain things she'd like him to do -- then if he doesn't do them, women need to take a look at that and probably move on... So, gentlemen, these are three things the woman you're dating wants you to do: 1) Pursue her. 3) In social media -- like in life -- make sure it's clear she's your favorite.
Otherwise, she thinks -- no, she knows -- that you are hiding something from her.
And that trust thing I was talking about that's crucial to her? These three things are not time-consuming, and really take very little effort.
What happens when she doesn't feel special or like she can't trust you?
How do you think it makes her feel to get all hot and heavy with you in the bedroom, only to walk into the living room and come face to face with a pic of you and your ex? (And by the way, her being upset about the above things is not necessarily her being insecure.
All of our "feelings" and what men unfairly call our "crazy" usually stem from just two things -- we want to feel safe (like we can trust you) and we want to feel special.
And as complicated as we seem, it is very easy for us to feel this way.
I emailed about 25 male friends and acquaintances -- mostly men in their 20's and 30's but a couple older men as well -- to ask them the following: "What do you, as a man, want?
There are no right answers, only your truth." I heard back from 12 of them.