Thank you for all of your clear and concise thoughts over the last few years.
I have definitely taken things to heart: look for boyfriend behavior; there is a natural timeline where commitment should come by month three, “I love you” around 6 months, living together at 18, engaged at 2-3 years; men do what they want, and so many other pearls.
If you're single and dating, once you hit your mid-30s you start to notice more and more divorced dads on Tinder, Ok Cupid, and IRL.
By 40, what was once few and far between is now your main dating demographic.
We’ve scrupulously avoided lying, but the omission is pretty misleading…) My boyfriend’s ex is sober and reliable if not particularly interested in being accommodating, so our challenges with making time for each other are more about being a long-distance relationship than about parenting responsibilities.
We went from dating other people to monogamous pretty much from the first date; the other milestones are well behind that “natural timeline.” It occurs to me that I should have one of these talks with my SO not because I’m excited to get married again but because I know he’s open to the idea and I should probably be careful that I’m not stringing him along.
He’s a fantastic and committed single dad who has his 5-year-old son 50% of the time; he and his ex-divorced several years ago.
She has struggled with addiction, thus making co-parenting a bit of a struggle at times. He’s truly wonderful; he’s kind, thoughtful, treats me with so much respect.
And while I may not have written explicitly about this before, and may not have it as a core part of my curriculum, what I’m about to share with you is 100% consistent with other things I’ve said over the years. Make sure that your boyfriend wants to get married."While some women may consider it a liability, being a divorced dad is a big plus for me.All things being equal, I prefer a divorced dad to someone who's never been married any day.With a man who's been married before, you know that he can commit, says Eris Huemer, cofounder of Divorce Doctor, a company that provides counseling for people going through divorces.Divorced men also know the ups and downs that come with long-term involvement.