The best thing to do here it is to talk it through with your new partner.
As you both met online you will both be in the same predicament, so talk it through together and make a joint decision.
Online dating seemed like the perfect way to do just that. Chronic illness can change the way you see yourself. Part of me wanted to shrink back into mediocrity, play it safe. But the truth is, illness doesn’t make you any less lovable. I’ve lost friends and career paths, opportunities and life milestone moments all while trying to find just the right words to inspire others to find their own inner strength and courage. You see, what I’ve learned, is who I am is much bigger than the circumstances of my life. I’m compassionate, loyal, honest, optimistic and relentless in my capacity to give and receive love. It’s taken me a long while to arrive at a place of self love and acceptance. So, I finally did what I knew I had to do all along.
Managing day to day symptoms and associated issues, it can become difficult to ascertain where you as a person begins and the illness ends. It doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve to be happy. Illness maybe be an obvious visual marker right now, but test results and symptoms don’t determine my value, worthiness or suitability as a friend or partner. And as I typed the sentences that revealed all to that particular human being on the other end of the keyboard, I took a deep breath for I knew that it was a game changing moment.
Simply be polite and let them down gently by saying ‘sorry, you’re out of my age range’ or ‘I’m looking for someone who lives a little closer’ and then wish them well in their continued search.
Something that says ‘Hey, I took the time to read your profile, we seem to have things in common and I’d like to know more about you, if you like my profile too’ (not literally though! How to say ‘thanks, but no thanks’If you were approached in a bar by someone you weren’t that interested in you wouldn’t just ignore them, would you?Now, I’ve seen people respond badly to this kind of message almost in a child-like ‘yeah well I didn’t fancy you anyway’ manner. Be grateful that the person has taken the time to actually respond and do the only thing you can do in this situation.Scrape your ego up off the floor, dust yourself down, and continue in your search.Most sites will usually let you put your profile on hold or let you delete it and re-activate it should you need it again in the future.So next time you’re online remember these basics principles, because they could be the difference between fluffing things up and finding something special.