I want to respond to you about holidays and vacations specifically, but I also want to write to you about the bigger question of dating in a way that pleases God. But our answer here is nuanced, as the Christian understanding of sex and romance is different from that of popular culture.There is nothing in the Bible that directly says that Holidays together are wrong – and it is not for me to tighten the protestant strings of your conscience till they vibrate wildly like some spectral zither.For many of us, if we’re honest, it really doesn’t matter who’s offering the advice as long as it confirms what we thought or wanted in the first place.We think we’re leaning on others as we wade into all the material online, but we’re often just surrendering to our own cravings and ignorance.Today more than ever before, we’re faced with a never-ending buffet of opinions and advice that has something to say about everything and yet lets us choose the answer we want.
As Christians, our greatest goal is to please God and our greatest fear is to offend him. We fight a popular lie in today’s culture that says 'fornication is fun, not fatal! He is in his mid-twenties, he makes good money at his job, he doesn’t live with his parents and he is above average handsome – or so I’ve heard it said by some of the ladies. He has a girlfriend – and has had other girlfriends before this one. Its not a dumb law that condemns him or that he judges others with - he simply finds it a useful way to avoid sexual sin.
Read slowly what God has to say about it: Sin is far more deadly than arsenic or uranium. But the same Jesus, who says to the woman caught in the act of adultery, ‘I do not condemn you’ immediately says to her, ‘Go and sin no more.’ (John 8)So, you two must ask yourselves: will taking this holiday alone together put the two of us in a position where we are tempted to offend God with our bodies (think beaches, swimsuits, cocktails, etc)?
It took the death of the Eternal Son of God to provide a medicine strong enough to overcome its effects.
There's nothing sinful in itself of a getaway together. You are probaly asking me about that little talked about F-word: fornication.
Adultery is a married person having sex they are not married to. Yes, as Christians we maintain that sex is only for marraige. It needs to work its way into how we make our decisions whether we feel worshipful or not. I know of Christian couples who - when visiting each other - have slept in the same room (separate beds) and have not been sexually active – a task many of us would find challenging.