I had always tried to entice and seduce men, using my physical appearance and feminine wiles (which I believed to be all that I had to offer a man), until I recognized the hazardous pattern of deception I was weaving.Needless to say, my past relationships were never quite right.So I had the big birthday and coincidentally went out on a first date 10 days later and instead of heart palpitations and a low cut top, I decided to be comfortable inside and out!I went deep inside of myself to where I truly reside and stayed there, peaceful and still.When looking for a mate, being one's self is not going to guarantee landing "the prize", but if you feel good about yourself, the odds of attracting a suitable partner get much better.Scripts are a key component of the branch of social psychology known as transactional analysis (TA), which no one talks about anymore.In a nutshell, in TA scripts are different than you've got them -- they result from longterm persistent low level programming by the parent of the opposite sex. (This model goes back to before the disintegration of the two-parent family began.) So a mother will tend to script a son to be like his maternal grandfather, possibly emphasizing his good qualities and excising his bad ones, depending on the mother's relationship with her father and her adult perspective.
Rob and I will go out on our 4th date tonight :) Peace y'all, Denise What a lovely story, Denise! Congrats on reaching your true self and braving the dating world with comfortable success.You need someone with whom you can reveal your authentic self, not just a piece of you—and you are the only one who can bring that full you to the table.I am so glad someone is finally blowing all the horseshit out there in the dating world out of the water.Finally, I am comfortable in my own skin and this makes it easier for me to connect with others.I can sense that others are more comfortable in my presence as well and that too is deeply rewarding.